Owning and using sex toys is an exciting experience, but there are real sex toy mistakes that almost everyone makes. Whether you are a beginner or an experienced person, follow some basic rules to avoid these mistakes. Here are 15 common sex toy mistakes to avoid.
1、Inadequate or no cleaning of sex toys
Sex toy hygiene is very important for its life and your safety. Almost all sex toys will come into contact with your genitals. If you use dirty, bacteria-filled toys, the consequences can be imagined, ranging from inflammation to serious Urinary tract infections. Keeping sex toys clean can help prevent these health risks.
Cleaning sex toys isn't hard, and you don't need anything fancy. A clean washcloth and some soap will do the trick for most sex toys. Here's our article detailing how to clean different types of sex toys .
2、You don't pay attention to the instructions
I understand that when you just got a new sex toy, you can't wait to try it out. But I have to say that you must read the instructions first. This instruction manual is not redundant, and some tips in it involve how to use the product and precautions. For example, some sex toys are battery-powered, and it will be recommended to fully charge before use to extend the battery life. In addition, you are not familiar with the functions of all the buttons, and I don't think you want to accidentally switch the settings at the moment before orgasm.
3、You’re not using lubricant correctly
Lubricants are not only useful during sex, but they are even more effective when used with sex toys. If you use sex toys when you are not fully aroused, you will need the help of lubricants, otherwise you may feel pain or discomfort if the lubrication is insufficient.
But there are some tips for using lubricants. How to choose lubricants ? Common lubricants on the market now are oil-based, water-based and silicone-based, and most sex toys are compatible with these lubricants. But if your sex toy is made of silicone, unfortunately, it is not compatible with silicone-based lubricants. Silicone-based lubricants will damage the silicone layer on the surface and completely destroy it over time.
4、You will subconsciously choose popular sex toys
Whether shopping online or in stores, people are always accustomed to asking the staff which product is selling best. It is completely reasonable to take the hot selling products into consideration, but its popularity is not necessarily the basis for your selection. It is like when you go to a bookstore to buy a book, you ask the salesperson which book is selling best, but after learning about it, you find that this book is not your favorite type. Similarly, you need to understand what type of stimulation you like, clitoral stimulation or penetration stimulation, and then choose the sex toy according to your preferences.
5、You focus too much on climax
Yes, sex toys are very effective and can make you orgasm. But if you use sex toys with this expectation, you will miss a lot of fun. You can use sex toys to explore your body, experience pleasures you have never experienced before and enjoy them, rather than just using them as a tool to help you orgasm. Remember that orgasm is not the goal, but enjoying the process is the original intention.
6、You only trust expensive sex toys
I'm glad you have a quality mindset, but I have to tell you that when it comes to sex toys, sometimes a $20 sex toy can feel just as good as a $200 sex toy. It may sound frustrating, but it's true.
For beginners, when you don't know what sex toys you like, you can buy a cheap bullet vibrator for $20 to explore your body. Once you know what sensations work and don't work for you, you can upgrade to more expensive toys.
I'm not defending cheap sex toys, they are just as effective. But their lifespan and after-sales guarantee may not be as good as those of big brands, there is no doubt about that. If you want to invest in a sex toy that has a long life and is worth long-term use, it is more cost-effective to buy a more expensive one. Of course, when buying cheap sex toys, make sure they are harmless to the body.
7、You feel ashamed about using sex toys
It's not the old days anymore, fuck the sex toy shame and slut shame. Why should we be ashamed of sex? Isn't human reproduction dependent on sex? This is normal. Sex toys play a very important role in sexual activities. You can enthusiastically integrate toys into your sex life and enjoy the pleasure it brings. When others are still ashamed of it, you are already enjoying orgasms. No one will judge you, only you know it. Remember, the purpose of sex toys is to make you feel pleasure, not to make you feel ashamed.
8、You only use sex toys alone
Playing with sex toys in the bedroom alone is relaxing, but it is even better if you can share this pleasure with your partner. Some people always feel ashamed to bring sex toys into sex with their partners. Introducing sex toys into your sexual activities is definitely the right decision. It is almost a game-changing decision. You can experience completely different pleasures. The relationship between sex toys and sexual partners should be a cooperative relationship, not a competitive relationship. Don't worry, it will not threaten your relationship, but the premise is that both of you must negotiate and not compromise with the other party, to ensure that both parties enjoy it.
9、You’re not storing your sex toys properly
How you store sex toys is just as important as how you wash them, and you have to consider the characteristics of different materials. For example, sex toys made of jelly, SEBS, and TPE may stick together, and the color will transfer from one toy to another. So you can't just throw them all into your drawer, it's best to put them in separate velvet bags. And some sex toys can't be stored in direct sunlight or high temperatures, which will affect their lifespan.
In addition, if you don't want your sex toys to be discovered by others, you'd better hide them in a hidden place. Otherwise, it may put you in an extremely embarrassing situation.
10、You share sex toys without any precautions
If you use sex toys with a non-regular partner without any precautions, it is essentially the same as unprotected sex. Especially when you share insertable sex toys, your body fluids are exchanged on the sex toys, which puts you at risk for STDs. So it is wise to use condoms when sharing insertable sex toys.
11、You switch sex toys between different orifices
The anus and vagina have very different bacterial environments. The anal area contains a large number of bacteria, especially intestinal bacteria such as E. coli, which are foreign to the vagina and may cause infection. If you switch sex toys between different orifices, it may cause cross infection, so it is not a wise decision. If you must do this, please use condoms.
12、Porous toys are not for use with condoms
Some jelly and rubber toys are soft and very popular. But there is a health risk that cannot be ignored with these toys, that is, they are porous toys. No matter how you wash them, you can't completely clean the bacteria hidden inside. But don't worry, if you use them with condoms, you can protect yourself and your partner from infection from potentially unhygienic toys.
13、Using A Toy In A Way It Was Not Designed For
If a sex toy is designed for vaginal or clitoral use, don't put it in your anus. This has resulted in more than one embarrassing emergency room visit. If you don't want to end up with a toy stuck in your anus that can't be removed, choose a sex toy that's designed to be inserted into the anus and won't slide in easily.
14、Using non-sex toys as sex toys
There is never a lack of creativity among many people, and many people will use cucumbers, eggplants and other strange things as substitutes for dildos. I will not comment on its effect for the time being, but are they really safe? I am not against DIY sex toys, but I will never support them, provided that you know whether they will cause harm to you. If you just try it once out of curiosity, it doesn't matter. But if you use it for a long time, you are not sure what unpredictable consequences will occur.
15、You only buy sex toys online
It is also a common mistake to only buy sex toys online. Many people find it more convenient and private to buy online. This is undoubtedly an advantage of online stores. However, if you rush to buy a product without seeing it in person and feeling it in your hands, you will not be sure whether it will match your imagination. Many sex toy stores have samples of the products on display. I strongly recommend that you go shopping in a sex toy store at least once to see the sizes of the products and understand their functions.
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