It is very common for many people to be very aware of their preferences in sexual activity but not know how to express them to their partner, but that doesn't make it right.If you want to know what your partner likes in intimate activities, then you need to be bold enough to tell your partner, after all, not everyone has the ability to read minds, and it only takes a simple expression to be able to let your partner know your true inner preferences.
However, in order to let your partner understand your own preferences in the area of sexuality, you also need to find the right way, so that your needs will be better accepted by the other party, I will provide you with some suggestions to help you learn how to let your partner understand what you really want.
Start outside the bedroom
If you want to talk about it with your partner, being aware of where you are talking can make your conversation easier and smoother. If you suddenly bring up your thoughts with your partner when you're about to have intimacy, it's likely to ruin the intimacy that you've just developed, and your partner is likely to think that they've made some mistakes during sex, which can make them squeamish about sex or stressed out about it, which is likely to lead to a much worse sexual experience.
If you want to talk to your partner about what you want in sex, it might be a better idea to have these conversations outside of the bedroom. When you're not in a sexual state, you're more emotionally rational, which will make communication easier and you'll be more likely to get the results you want to achieve.
Use fun games to achieve your goals
If you find it too boring to just tell your partner what you desire during sex, then making things interesting with sexy games may be more for you, as long as you use your imagination, even the simplest rock-paper-scissors can be turned into a very fun game, and setting up some fun punishments is the key to making things interesting.
You can punish your partner for taking off any item of clothing when they lose the game, or you can punish them with a short, intense kiss. Any simple game can be very sexy with some flirting and fun punishment. Perfect for flirting.
Share sex checklist with your partner
Sex lists are one thing that every couple must try, it is not only very fun but also gives your partner an idea of what you like to do.
You can write a list of things that you like to do during sex, as well as things that you don't like to do during sex, and get your partner to write a list of the same, and you can compare each other's lists to see what you and the other person agree on, or what you find interesting about the other person's ideas. This will not only allow you and your partner to share each other's favorite ways of having sex, but it will also allow you to get to know each other better.
Make a sh*t sandwich
A ‘sh*t sandwich’ is a commonly used communication technique, and the beauty of this technique is that it can make the other person more receptive to your requests and feel happy as a result.
The key to this communication technique is that you need to encourage the other person first by letting him know why you like your sex life and which of his performances you are happy with, then make your request so that he understands why you want to do it, and then finally give him recognition for his performance and explain how much you enjoy having sex with him. Let him feel happy to agree to your request while feeling happy.
Focus on the ‘we’
Asking for what you want doesn't mean you're a selfish lover, and learning to ask for what you want is very important for sex between partners to be enjoyable and comfortable. If your partner can't give you the pleasure you want, and you don't know how to let your partner know what you want in bed, if your sexual desire is not satisfied in the long term, it will have a big impact on your relationship with your partner.
Seeing you and your partner as a whole, focusing on your mutual pleasure, and making both of you feel satisfied during sex can have a very positive effect on long-term sexual relationships.
Always ask for more
Giving encouragement to your partner in time is a very practical technique, when your partner's performance in sex or specific behavior makes you feel satisfied, timely positive feedback can make each other feel the pleasure of being praised.
You can say something encouraging and slightly provocative, such as: You're sexy when you ** me! I love it. This will let your partner know that you like it and he will build on it. If you find it difficult to say these words because they make you feel shy, you can also use your body to meet your partner and let him feel your arousal, or let out a more sensual moan that can have the same effect.
